Where’s the Glue

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Whose job is it to hold the extended family together

“In every conceivable manner, the family is link to our past, bridge to our future.” – Alex Haley

Many boomers have, or will, experience the loss of their parents… the glue that held the family together. Our parents were the ones we all came home to on special occasions, such as weddings, anniversaries, funerals, and of course, for all the major holidays.

So, what happens when they are gone? Where is the glue that held us all together? Dave and I are the oldest living children of our families. Does that make it our responsibility? It’s a tricky question and one that isn’t really easy to answer.

When it comes to family, there’s no denying that it can be tough to keep everyone connected. With busy schedules, conflicting personalities, and different priorities, it can be difficult to know whose job it is to keep the extended family together.

The Importance of Family

Before we dive into the question of whose job it is to hold the extended family together, it’s essential to recognize why family matters. Family is the foundation of our lives, and it provides us with a sense of belonging and support.

When we have healthy family relationships, we’re more likely to have healthy relationships in all areas of our lives, including work, friendships, and romance. But when family relationships are strained or non-existent, it can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and even depression.

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The Responsibility of Each Family Member

While it’s tempting to think that one person should be responsible for holding the extended family together, the truth is that it’s everyone’s responsibility. Each family member plays a vital role in strengthening the family bond.

Whether it’s keeping in touch regularly, attending family gatherings, or being there for each other during difficult times, each family member has an essential part to play.

While it’s true that everyone in the family has a responsibility to keep in touch and support one another, there’s often one person who takes on a more prominent role in holding the family together. This person is often the one who plans family reunions, sends out holiday cards, and keeps everyone informed about what’s happening in the family.

While this person is essential, it’s crucial to remember that they can’t do it alone. It’s up to each family member to support them and take an active role in keeping the family connected.

The Benefits of a Strong Family Bond

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When a family is tightly knit, there are many benefits. For one, family members are more likely to have a support system in place during difficult times. They can rely on each other for emotional, financial, and practical support.

Additionally, a strong family bond can lead to better mental health and well-being. Research shows that people who have close relationships with their family members are less likely to experience depression and anxiety.

The Bottom Line

So, whose job is it to hold the extended family together? The answer is simple: it’s everyone’s responsibility. While there may be one person who takes on a more prominent role, each family member has a vital part to play.

“There is no doubt that it is around the family and the home that all the greatest virtues… are created, strengthened and maintained.” – Winston Churchill

Family is essential, and it’s up to each of us to do our part in keeping the extended family connected. By staying connected, supporting each other, and making an effort to stay involved in each other’s lives, we can strengthen the family bond and reap the many benefits that come with it.

6 responses to “Where’s the Glue”

  1. Debbie MIsenhimer Nardini Avatar
    Debbie MIsenhimer Nardini

    This sure hit home with me…never did I see myself at 66, stepping into the role of what my parents did to bring family together, but here I am!
    Thank you Jamie 🤗💕

    1. Jamie Perkins Avatar

      Thank you Debbie!

  2. Katherine Andes Avatar

    Yes, it’s interesting how families change. It’s kind of like a big flock of birds that shift the leading bird and the others follow. I find it’s best to just be relaxed. If certain family members don’t care to participate, let it go and see them when you can. Enjoy the family that does want to get together.

    1. Jamie Perkins Avatar

      Yes Kathy. I agree!

  3. Kathy Coombs Avatar
    Kathy Coombs

    Jamie, perfect timing for us as our family has become scattered to far away places. It is so important to stay connected. Great article.

    1. Jamie Perkins Avatar

      Thank you Kathy. It’s great to hear from you! I hope you and Bill are enjoying your new home.